......A happier immature, relationally unskilled man.
I want to share part of my journey to becoming whole again.
Here is the scripture that motivates me:
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
Here is the book that motivates me: "I Don't Want To Talk About It" by Terrence Real
Page 225: "But I consider medication....... as platform(s) that allow the man to do the therapeutic work, not as panaceas obviating the need for it. An unhappy, immature, relationally unskilled man on medication becomes, at best, a happier immature, relationally unskilled man"
Here is the letter that motivates me.... (We celebrate our 20th anniversary this December and she wrote this letter 2 years ago.)
November 18, 2003
Dear Doctor,
I am writing this letter concerning my husband, Glen Aus, because I love him dearly and so much want for him to be accurately diagnosed and treated.
After listening on many occasions to Glen share with me about the events of his childhood and after several discussions with his mother concerning the same, I believe it is accurate to say that Glen experienced a very difficult childhood. He was the one "targeted" out of four children by his father, receiving almost constant emotional and psychological abuse. His father used anger, intimidation and demeaning words and actions towards Glen. He was often unpredictable and he withheld approval and acceptance of Glen as his son. He also blamed Glen and others for things.
Glen's father in his later years, was diagnosed with a "severe personality disorder" and due to severe depression, anger, and psychotic thinking, was on anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, and anti-psychotic medications. It wasn't until about three years before his death in 1997 that he became almost pleasant to live with. His brother apparently had similar struggles. They were sons of an alcoholic father.
Throughout our almost eighteen years of marriage I have seen Glen go through "cycles" of depression, times when he felt low and discouraged and felt angry and negative toward himself and other people. He has put out so much energy trying to be a good husband and father, working toward an ideal that was not modeled for him by his father. I believe that Glen's relationship with God, our strong encouraging relationship with each other, and his own goals for himself have helped him become the wonderful man that he is. But he is too tired now. He and I both believe he needs help. He has been depressed, angry and negative, and his moods have been quite unpredictable for quite some time now. Expending so much energy battling his background, his negative thought processes, his anger, his depression, and trying to be what he desires to be has "aged" him. He often doesn't have enough energy left to enjoy life or invest much in his children.
In comparison to his father's diagnosis, I believe Glen does have depression and anger and he often mentally and verbally "replays" the harmful treatment in his childhood, his envy of his siblings and his current struggles, especially those involving individuals who portray characteristics that remind him of his struggle with his father or people who "feel sorry" for themselves.
As far as I know, Glen has only had one panic attack and that occurred several years ago.
When Glen is depressed, he sometimes has mis-perceptions about himself and others but does not seem to have the psychotic thought processes that his father had (i.e. "someone was 'bugging' his bedroom" and that "everyone was out to get him").
I have wondered how much Glen's anger and thought processes (especially those against others) were learned from his father's example and how much is his own internal struggle.
I hope that this information will aid you in your efforts to help Glen come out from under the "cloud" that weighs heavily on him.
Thank you,
Respectfully,
Lee Anne
For me it is time to break the cycle and I would encourage other men to do the same.
Personally, I do not want my wife to walk up to my casket and say "Thank God, He is gone."
Here is the scripture that motivates me:
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
Here is the book that motivates me: "I Don't Want To Talk About It" by Terrence Real
Page 225: "But I consider medication....... as platform(s) that allow the man to do the therapeutic work, not as panaceas obviating the need for it. An unhappy, immature, relationally unskilled man on medication becomes, at best, a happier immature, relationally unskilled man"
Here is the letter that motivates me.... (We celebrate our 20th anniversary this December and she wrote this letter 2 years ago.)
November 18, 2003
Dear Doctor,
I am writing this letter concerning my husband, Glen Aus, because I love him dearly and so much want for him to be accurately diagnosed and treated.
After listening on many occasions to Glen share with me about the events of his childhood and after several discussions with his mother concerning the same, I believe it is accurate to say that Glen experienced a very difficult childhood. He was the one "targeted" out of four children by his father, receiving almost constant emotional and psychological abuse. His father used anger, intimidation and demeaning words and actions towards Glen. He was often unpredictable and he withheld approval and acceptance of Glen as his son. He also blamed Glen and others for things.
Glen's father in his later years, was diagnosed with a "severe personality disorder" and due to severe depression, anger, and psychotic thinking, was on anti-depressant, anti-anxiety, and anti-psychotic medications. It wasn't until about three years before his death in 1997 that he became almost pleasant to live with. His brother apparently had similar struggles. They were sons of an alcoholic father.
Throughout our almost eighteen years of marriage I have seen Glen go through "cycles" of depression, times when he felt low and discouraged and felt angry and negative toward himself and other people. He has put out so much energy trying to be a good husband and father, working toward an ideal that was not modeled for him by his father. I believe that Glen's relationship with God, our strong encouraging relationship with each other, and his own goals for himself have helped him become the wonderful man that he is. But he is too tired now. He and I both believe he needs help. He has been depressed, angry and negative, and his moods have been quite unpredictable for quite some time now. Expending so much energy battling his background, his negative thought processes, his anger, his depression, and trying to be what he desires to be has "aged" him. He often doesn't have enough energy left to enjoy life or invest much in his children.
In comparison to his father's diagnosis, I believe Glen does have depression and anger and he often mentally and verbally "replays" the harmful treatment in his childhood, his envy of his siblings and his current struggles, especially those involving individuals who portray characteristics that remind him of his struggle with his father or people who "feel sorry" for themselves.
As far as I know, Glen has only had one panic attack and that occurred several years ago.
When Glen is depressed, he sometimes has mis-perceptions about himself and others but does not seem to have the psychotic thought processes that his father had (i.e. "someone was 'bugging' his bedroom" and that "everyone was out to get him").
I have wondered how much Glen's anger and thought processes (especially those against others) were learned from his father's example and how much is his own internal struggle.
I hope that this information will aid you in your efforts to help Glen come out from under the "cloud" that weighs heavily on him.
Thank you,
Respectfully,
Lee Anne
For me it is time to break the cycle and I would encourage other men to do the same.
Personally, I do not want my wife to walk up to my casket and say "Thank God, He is gone."
posted by Glen at 7:38 AM
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